It was just an off-handed comment, but I immediately got irritated. “Why does he always have to say something? And he doesn’t even know what he’s talking about. He’s wrong!”
I started to correct him, then changed my mind. If I said anything, then it would start a big kerfuffle and then of course he would share my plans with others. And I wasn’t ready for anyone else to know yet. But why did it bother me so much?
The first reason that popped to my mind is that he thought he knew me and he didn’t know me at all. The second reason was his assumption struck me as what he thought I should do. What HE would do. And that was NOT what I was planning to do. And it planted that little seed of doubt in my mind Maybe I wasn’t doing the smart thing – making the safe choice?
Whoa Nellie!
I had to do a quick change up in my thoughts to turn this brain train around. It doesn’t matter if he’s wrong about me. It doesn’t matter if everyone is wrong about me. As long as I am living and walking in my truth, that’s enough. The feeling that gave me was a sense of peace and joy and also like I was keeping a delicious secret all to myself.
Let them assume. Let them underestimate you. Let them be wrong. Approval not needed.